Whovian family

Who knew when a little lynx picked up a dr who dvd at library and asked to watch of the world we would be catapulted into??? He must have been no older than 3 and already there was a sense he wasn’t the ‘same’ as other little boys, preferring  his own company and his own adventures .He also was developing a lot later than other children ,of course now in 2013 I had my suspicions confirmed and backed up with a diagnosis of autism .A common feature of children with autism or related disorders is they have a favourite thing, and that day in the library was the start of lynxs …..HIS LOVE FOR DR WHO .

David tenant was the doctor when lynx first started watching and he developed his fascinating for the sonic screwdriver begging me to buy him one ,I think he has 3 or 4 now .The sonic screwdriver is almost like the doctors weapon assisting him in his adventures through time and space which of course takes place in his TARDIS which stands for Time And Relative Dimension In Space. Again lynx has many of these.

 

It wasn’t until Matt smith become the Doctor  I got fully  engaged in the series so for me he is my doctor and I already know there will be tears on Christmas day when he regenerates 😦 .Even when it was announced I cried to which the kids found very funny. In a way I’m similar to the doctor in that I don’t like endings or goodbyes .We watched matt grow as the Doctor ,he’s lovable ,funny ,clumsy ,awkward and made bow ties cool.

 

 

I have developed a soft spot for him as a person in how he has almost been a part of our family for the last 3 years .He has provided entertainment and comfort for my son who at times finds the real world too much to handle .So for me as a parent to Lincoln I want to thank Matt smith in transporting my son to a different exciting place and giving him hope and pleasure all in the comfort of our small flat .

The reason why I am writing this post is because it was the big 50th anniversary at the weekend and  lynx and I was very lucky to  have  the experience of being at the convention at London excel. We had our tickets and dr who t-shirts on and we were ready to go ! I was so excited ,not quite sure how lynx was feeling lol .I had been poorly the week before so I had everything crossed that I would be better and ensured I rested a lot as no way was I missing out!!!

Within 5 minutes of being there we was greeted by a cyber man and a Silurian …..lynx did not want his pic taken with them !!

We were ice warriors for the day ,or so it said on our passes.Our first port  of call was to watch the SFX show ,which was  presented by Dallas Campbell and he was joined by Danny Hargreaves who is the man who puts the bangs into dr who and yes he did make me jump.

When that show finished we had a couple of hours till the next show  so we had lunch watching the hundreds of whovians past in an array of costumes ,it was spectacular and you couldn’t help get a  sense of being part of something big . In fact we felt quite underdressed in just our logo tops ! We then  walked around taking in all the exhibitions and displays and of course hitting the gift shops …. I wish  I was rich lol .  Before we knew it it was time to return to the theatre where we would be seated till the end as we was watching the 2 Big shows REGENERATION and ELEVENTH HOUR ,excitement was building inside me knowing that I would be in the same room as MATT SMITH .I had been instructed by lynx to not embarrass him ….sorry mate as I know I did!!.

The regeneration panel was presented by Nicholas Briggs who provides the voice of the doctors arch enemies ….The daleks .He was joined by not one of the previous doctors but 4 and the atmosphere was amazing .I fell in love with tom baker who has a sparkle in his eye and oozed his love for his role of the doctor. Even lynx was quite amazed with him .There was also Colin baker ,Sylvester McCoy and Peter Davison. They were all fab and shared their own stories of their time in the iconic role of the Doctor .

Next was the eleventh hour panel which consisted of Stephen moffat ,jenna  coleman and f course matt 🙂 this part was presented by Jo whiley . They interacted superbly with the audience even getting a small boy on stage ( I was jealous) .I sensed sadness from matt when he was asked about his decision to leave 😦 Stephen moffat was so interesting to listen to and you can see how much he loves his job !! he was very funny too even swearing people  who leak spoilers.

 

Matt is just as gangly and fidgety in real life and just plain adorable !! I fangirled very much and embarrassed  lynx lol .As we was collecting our coats  walked past us which was so exciting and I waved like a mad lady at him !!

The convention was an amazing experience and just made the build up to the 50th anniversary episode even more exciting .

I can safely say I bless the day lynx picked up that dvd and changed our lives forever ,making it very WHOVIAN !!!

 

 

when 4 becomes 3 ….

I wanted to write this yesterday as the thoughts and words were fresh in my mind however lynx had different ideas !!! With his autism some evenings he becomes quite unsettled .Think it was the clocks changing which seems to have affected all of us .Tho I think there was an underlying reason as to him being unsettled and that being the fact he hasn’t seen his dad for 2 months .Yes that’s right 2 months !!!! I miss my kids after they been at school for 6 hours let alone 2 months . Its difficult for mel as a adult to et my head round it and understand so can’t imagne what it’s like for the children .estelle is 11going on 15 with hormones racing around her body and settling into the new environment of secondary school .then lynx who is autistic so can’t handle change and disruption to routine well at all . So any normal adult situation is difficult for children to grasp so imagne this situation ??
A bit of background story to explain the man who is their dad . We met young and settled down giving us both the family and hope we had longed for and needed .We was together 8 years and he probable will always be the love of my life however that love was very unhealthy and consuming of rage violence and control . There were lots of good times and good aspects to him which helped me grow as I met him so young .I was 17 a virgin and never experienced love before so I embraced any affection I was giviem from him thinking it was great . However as the years went by and I grew a voice and my own mind I realised this wasn’t how I wanted my life to be ,living on egg shells and spending more days crying than smiling . I left him in 2008 starting again with the children . I will go into more details another time of that time frame for today I want to focus on the children. At first he was still actively in their life having them half the week but I think he still thought I was going to come back . When he realised I wasn’t was when he changed and got nasty and eventually stopped having the kids . I did a lot of moving for various reasons eventually moving back to London .in 2009 court proceedings started which was a stressful time and a contact order was set up . He had to build a relationship up with the children starting small with a few hours a month in contact centre gradually building up to him having them overnight . With this has brought lots of challenges and emotions for me and the kids . Anyway this brings is to now October 2013 after he has been having them monthly for the last 2years he has now not seen them since august . What you have to bear in mind with my ex is that he’s not like most men in fact he’s quite unique in his thought processes . I sometimes think his goal in life especially after I’ve left him is to cause me stress rather than focusing on being the best dad he can be . The reason why he’s not seen his kids is because he now thinks I should travel to Waterloo to meet him with the kids as he lives in Bournemouth .my reason for saying no are that with him you give him a inch he takes a mile and why should I make his life easier ? This is a man who has reported me to the police and social services and even tried to get me on the Jeremy Kyle show !!! 😱😱 he doesn’t financially support his kids and he only has them once a month . So as a result if me saying no he has not seen his kids.
Where does this leave me and the situation with the kids?? It has amplified tensions between me and Estelle because she is a daddy’s girl and literally thinks his shit don’t stink ! She will join him in bad mouthing me and never defends me which is very painful to me.we have had arguments when my mask and shield have slipped some days and I can’t b nice coz he’s her dad ! For them it’s black and white but it’s so many more colours ! He still rings them twice a week and texts which has caused problems . It’s a very lonely time as I don’t know if I’m dealing with it the best way .
When we start a family we don’t plan on this being the end result and there is a element of guilt in all this .however another reason I left him was for the safety and happiness of the children . But for now I’m the bad cop especially in Estelle’s eyes and it’s difficult . Sometimes wonder who’s rooting for me ? Who’s got my back in all this as I try and be strong for the kids and take the crap.
I love my kids so much but I won’t lie as a single mum it is tough so it’s a shock to system not having a break .we all need to charge our batteries time to time and I’m getting over a virus and chest infection at present and it’s half term! So I’ve been resting as much as possible and luckily Estelle is old enough to help me a little bit lol
Thank you for reading x

Parents eve

This evening was Lynxs year 3. Parents eve which i never quite know how is going to be! Feeling under the weather this week so wasn’t really in best place for it however his teacher was full of praise and encouragement about lynx . He’s progressed really well and partaking in lot of intervention groups for support I’m his learning and social skills .
He’s happier and confident as a result .
With his autism he does have bad days which can b heightened as a result of tiredness or change of routine . It’s half term next week and I think he’s very ready to break up as he’s getting slightly agitated and unsettled the last few days . So some days he doesn’t want to go to school and he’s very much a boy who likes to be at home 🙂
As his mum j have to find ways to support his learning and make it manageable and find ways to alleviate any stresses . He struggles with homework especially writing and spellings .i use a puzzle method of learning his spellings which means he’s being creative and breaks it down a little bit .i also actively encourage any interest he has and build a way around that area for him learn and grow . For example he has discovered roald Dahl so we have had trips to library and even treated him to a book from wh smith .to see his face light up looking at the book reading or just imagining and often listening to me reading to him is a amazing feeling .
Happy that parents eve was a success well done lil man .

Newbie

Hello ive  had this page set activated for a while now but just not got round to getting stuck in,im still not sure how it all works!!!

Thought id start my explaining who I am and what I hope to blog about .Im Charlene the wrong side of 30! single mum to 2 beautiful kids who make me proud bt also grey lol Estelle is 11 going on 15 and started secondary school September which has been big adjustment .Lincoln tho we call him lynx is 7 and hes autistic so u never  know what the day brings with him but its sure exciting !! I will share my tales on them 🙂

Im studying counselling and also suffer with mental health so some days are greyer than others .I like to keep active as its good for mind and body.

Im a big bookworm and a self confessed geek!! Tho I do enjoy a lot of crap tv lol

That’s a brief overview of what I hope to share on my blog ,im now off to figure the bloody thing out lol xx